I was on a breakthrough call for my 8-Week Transformation program today and I mentioned something in passing that has been on my mind a lot lately, which is that so many people are ungrounded, disembodied and “in their head” most of the time. I’m finding that a lot of people are “grounding” as a purely mental exercise, going from their head to their feet, and leaving out the entirety of their bodies in between.
Embodiment is crucial for our personal and spiritual development, and I feel that a lot of religious and New (c)Age doctrines (dogmas) subtly or overtly condemn physicality, and focus on the Spirit of the person as the only thing that is of any significance. I feel that this is true only in one scenario: When we are NOT in a body, also known as death and the “afterlife.”
I know how tricky it can be to untangle these kind of spiritual beliefs from our psyches, but there is another aspect of disembodiment that needs to be talked about: Trauma.
A very common response to trauma is to pull up and out of our bodies, residing only in our heads or even above the head, in order to lessen the pain and fear that our bodies feel from traumatic experiences. Trauma can be “mild” or “severe” but to our psyche and body, it is always painful. Being able to sit with the pain of old traumas that is stored in our bodies takes practice, and doing that difficult work can help us to be more embodied if we can accept the pain and not attempt to make it go away with mental gymnastics.
The first module of my 8 Week Transformation focuses on embodiment and grounding, including intensive training techniques to develop them simultaneously, because we need both.
I would like to create a small 3-4 week program on embodiment, but I won’t have the time to do that for at least 6 months because I am fully focused on my 8-Week Transformation program, supporting the small groups of dedicated individuals on their deep healing and transformational journey.
So I am asking you for help that will benefit anyone who reads your comments: What resources can you share that helped you to be more embodied? Authors, books, exercises, practices, etc.
For me, outdoor activities, strength training, yoga (or just stretching), trauma healing and staying receptive to my body’s needs are the basics of what has helped me be deeply embodied and grounded. Any techniques that I use rest on that foundation.
I know that recommending books or videos can be tricky because reading or watching a video are mental activities, and we need physical practices that connect us to our bodies. Still, I would love to hear what has worked for you in becoming more embodied.
That’s me, feeling embodied and grounded in the midst of the strangeness of a photo shoot last October. (Photo shoots are weird…)